The connection playbook
Not sure what to say or plan? These opt-in cards and mini-games help you learn about each other in real interaction — never through secret tests.
The $1,000 weekend
Separately split an imaginary $1,000 weekend budget across travel, food, experiences, comfort, and a buffer. Compare choices, then each offer one adjustment for the other.
An ordinary Sunday, three years from now
Take turns describing an ordinary Sunday three years from now: where you live, how the day starts, and how work and time together fit.
My low-battery manual
Complete three lines each: When stressed I tend to…; Please avoid…; What genuinely helps me is…
The $5 tiny surprise
Use $5 and thirty minutes to find a small surprise with a story behind it. Exchange and explain your choices.
The guided path
Four stages from first conversations to shared growth. One activity never defines a person — insights update only through repeated, contextual evidence.
Sample games library
A starting shelf of formats — from low-stakes icebreakers to deeper prompts. Pick one, make it yours, and remember: a single game never defines anyone.
Each round, share two true things about your week and one hope for next week. The other guesses which is the hope — then you both discuss it.
Pick a shared memory (a trip, a meal, a funny fail). Each tells their version, including one detail the other may have missed. Compare notes.
Answer three questions: what did money mean in your home growing up, what would you do with an unexpected $500, and what's one thing worth saving for together.
Write 10 questions you've been avoiding on slips of paper. Draw one each week — either person can pass, but passing means scheduling it, not dropping it.
Each sketches their family and friend constellation, then walks the other through it: who's close, who's complicated, and what holidays actually look like.
Same time each week: each names one thing the other did that you appreciated and one thing you need more of. No scorekeeping — the goal is noticing.